Whenever I face any interview and I don’t get selected. I feel depressed. How can I avoid or overcome this?

Whenever I face any interview and I don’t get selected. I feel depressed. How can I avoid or overcome this?

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  1. Today, we human don’t have absolute direction to get good employees. This is a truth. Most interviews are really base on person intuition (even their state of emotion), they’re so subjective. We human are affected by bias more than we think. If the applicant is handsome or beautiful, they might got extra mark (that the interviewer never aware that). That include good manner, good voice. The unreasonable factor take a lot part in recruitment. So don’t feel bad about it. You are good or not might not relate to be accepted to that job.

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  2. Congratulations! You have created one pillar of success. I can explain you with a real life example.
    Five of my friends went to Bangalore after graduating from college. They were searching for jobs and applied everywhere. All of them were of similar caliber and from same background.
    After two weeks, they all went for a job interview and one person out of these got selected. The other four felt very much rejected.
    In two months, four out of five friends got an offer. The only one who was left to get a job offer was feeling dejected. He appeared in all the job interviews with these friends, yet failed all the interviews. But with each interview he found new gaps in his knowledge and worked on it.
    After 3 months, he got an interview call. Although he was tired of appearing for interviews, he prepared well for it. He went and attended the interview. Due to his continuous preparation, his interview well and he was given an offer. When he saw the offer, he could not believe. It was the offer double in amount than all other four friends.
    He was puzzled and called me. After talking with him, I figured out that with each failure in interview, his knowledge level kept increasing. In the end, when he went for the last interview, his performance was so much beyond expectation that company considered him to be an experienced professional. Therefore, gave him one of the highest offers!!!
    IMHP, till you appear for 50 interviews and spend 6 months, do not feel dejected.
    So go on, once again prepare well.
    Follow me at Gautam Gupta if you would like to read more stories on success in life.

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  3. You learn from it and apply again .
    Interviews are tough . Expecting to pass every single one is like expecting to ace every exam you ever take. It’s even a little more extreme because you can not get 100% on an exam, but a 95% is still something to be proud of. Interviews, on the other hand, have binary outcomes — you either pass or you don’t.
    Everyone fails interviews . I have yet to meet anyone who has passed every interview, including all the smart people who passed interviews with Google, Amazon, Microsoft, Facebook, etc. But they keep trying.
    The only way to improve at interviews is to do more interviews .
    Interviews are a very specific type of event. They ask you questions that you’ll probably never have to directly solve at work, and they give you a time constraint that is also not very realistic. That means that by doing coursework, or even working, though you’re gaining the technical skills you need to pass, you won’t be developing the interview skills.
    One thing that I do after my interviews is to log the questions that I was asked, how I approached the question, and what feedback/conversation I had with the interviewer. This allows me to compile a list of similar, interview-type questions that I could be expected to solve.
    When you fail an interview, (notice I say when, cause it will probably happen) whether it’s a technical interview, a behavioral interview, an interview for a job, or an interview for a scholarship, or whatever, the most valuable thing you can do is learn from it. Learn about what it’s like to solve questions under a time crunch. Learn about what it’s like to ask meaningful questions. Learn about what it’s like to explain your ideas clearly.
    Take all these skills and experiences and just use them to grow and familiarize yourself with the process. Practice by having your mock interviews with friends, and practice by taking every interview you get.
    “To the one who knocks it will be opened”
    Keep your chin up and continue knocking on those doors; good things will come!

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  4. Isn’t it strange how failing at something feels like it becomes an inextricable part of yourself, yet successes come and go with hardly a passing thought? It’s like the good things we do aren’t real, and the bad things are all we can cling to.
    Reality is so much simpler than that: everything is always changing. Of course, change can be uncomfortable, and we tend to avoid it at all costs.
    When bad things happen, it’s easy to forget that the whole reason we’ve failed is so we can learn how to do better the next time. We get stuck obsessing over the fact of our failure, instead of learning the lesson so we can move on.
    When good things happen, we tend to avoid obsessing about them, because we know that leads to disappointment later, when things aren’t going so well.
    The way to ease the pain of your failures has three parts. First, realize that failure is no more a discredit to who you are than success is to your credit. Stuff happens, and later, more stuff happens.
    Second, accept that nothing is permanent, either good or bad. Change is going to happen, whether you like it or not. It’s easier if you start to enjoy change, instead of avoiding it.
    Third, become the instrument of change. Instead of letting life’s events toss you around until you randomly end up somewhere, pay attention to where events are sending you, and see how far you can go in that direction.
    Failure is always an opportunity for growth. It only hurts because you’re focused on the outcome, instead of the opportunity.

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  5. There is something better awaiting you. Remember if Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam would have become a pilot had he passed an interview.
    It doesn’t mean that Great Achievers never failed.
    It means that never Quit.

    This is the story of Brian Acton, whatsapp CEO.

    In the middle of 2009, Brian Acton was the software engineer that no one wanted to hire. Despite a dozen years of experience at Yahoo and Apple Computer, he got turned down by two of the Internet’s brightest stars at the time. First Twitter said no in May. Then Facebook rejected him in August.
    He took twitter, to show his pain and anguish. Here is the snapshot oh his tweet:

    Whenever I face any interview and I don't get selected. I feel depressed. How can I avoid or overcome this?

    ​Had facebook accepted him there would be no whatsapp.

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  6. Success is not being successful immediately it is coping well with setbacks.
    To obtain your first job you will have more rejections than offers.
    A rejection says absolutely nothing about your capabilities or competencies as a whole. You are not accepted for a job because one of the following has occurred:
    Your skillset did not match the requirements of the company. That does not mean they were bad, it means it is not what they wanted at this time
    You did not have the relevant experience. This is probably the most frequent reason, except for graduate jobs. People are trying to avoid failure so are looking for the person being recruited having demonstrated they can do the job, so if you do not have the relevant experience or are doing a career change except many more rejections as you are expecting an employee to see promise in you rather than demonstrated competence
    You interview badly. Some people do. Some people are too arrogant, do not listen well, are delusional about their importance or competence, are chronically shy so are difficult to interview, etc. Make sure you review your performance and see how you could improve.
    They did not like you. It happens, it does not mean someone else will not like you. It is the same as dating, not everyone is looking for the same type of person. We all have personal preferences. Feel lucky you do not have to work with someone who does not like you
    You fluffed it. They asked a question that totally floored you and it went from bad to worse after that. You are now better prepared and you could prepare even better.
    The most important thing to remember is that most people are employed and most people find a job so you are likely to find one as well as long as you do not give up.
    But some tips:
    Identify your 100% fit job, not the one you want. You might want to be CEO but can you demonstrate you have the skills factually (not talk!) so a job that fits your experience, skills, education, temperament, social preferences, etc.
    Does that job exist in the location you want? If not what is the closest type of job
    Research the company you are going to interview with
    Prepare for the interview and learn from each
    Do your best but know that the outcome is not in your hands as there are many factors you do not control. So learn from your mistakes or setbacks but do not blame yourself
    Having a great job is not the purpose of life, being at ease and happy is! So focus on that and all will be well. A good job can contribute to that but is not essential.

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  7. If we failed the interview, we’ll fell very upset. But we can’t give up. We should maintain a positive attitude. If we lose hope, we will lose everything.
    And on the other hand, we’d better summarize all the details and find the solutions accordingly.
    If we’re still confused, we can ask for help from experienced interviewers. They will give us some valuable suggestions.
    Last but not least, we should make a concrete plan.

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  8. The daily practice of mindful meditation bears fruit 24/7. A book I have found very helpful is Wherever You Go, There You Are , by Jon Kabat-Zinn. Ten minutes 2X a day. I used to do TM, but this is even easier and takes less time!
    Mindfulness is not any ancient, sacred, mystic thing. It’s focusing on the here and now, the present moment. The past is history, the future is a mystery, that’s why they call right now a present. You fucked up a job interview. The instant you realize it [and BTW, do you assume you failed or wait to know for certain?] is life still really good? Can you still see, hear, speak, smell? Do you have a roof over your head, clean drinking water, enough to eat? You are better off that 99.9% of planetary humans, and that’s probably going to remain true no matter how many job interviews you fuck up [unless it means you can’t afford your rent any more, and you’re going to be sleeping in your car, in which case your reality testing when you get upset and depressed is good].
    All of the experiences you mentioned depend upon the approval of someone else: job interviewer, prospective girlfriend, teacher, etc. And it feels validating when one or more of them gives you positive feedback, just like I feel good when people read my answers [but hey, people, while we’re on the subject, more up votes please!].
    But you need to cultivate activities and pursuits for which you are the only judge. I have photography: undeadphotos.com. There is nothing I sell there, it’s just that I’m sharing pieces that I’m proud of, and that I enjoyed making. But if every comment came back “Oh man, this shot really sucks”, I would say that person is a poor judge of good photography, not that my photography is not good.
    Which is what you can think about every person who rejects you. That girl who won’t go out with you? Her loss. That job that won’t hire you? Their loss. Don’t carry resentments: it’s like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. But the opinion of you that counts the most is your own. Whatever rewards the approval of others brings — money, sex, good grades, and not necessarily in that order — is your own.
    Take a hard look in the mirror and ask yourself, do I like and respect that person? You certainly want you to feel less bad, so you must like yourself at least that much. If you don’t like yourself, or respect yourself, change the things that need to be changed. Stop stealing from the collection box. Don’t steal kids’ basket balls on the playground. Don’t be a troll, on line or anywhere else.
    Oh, wait, you don’t do those things? Then how bad could you be?
    Hope this helps! It helped me: I enjoyed writing it.

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  9. By realizing that it’s normal and that you only need to succeed once. At some point, even by chance, you will get the job.
    I have bombed numerous interviews. Sometimes I wasn’t prepared, or the technical question was above my knowledge, or just the stress got to my head and I couldn’t think anymore. It happens. Just forget about it and try again.
    Don’t get discouraged. It’s very normal.

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  10. Take a different perspective. Maybe the job would not have been a good fit for you, you might have been miserable there. It could be that something is ahead that would be a much better situation.

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  11. Everyone speak big things…my personal experience would say, it is all about your luck in that interview. If you lucky you will be selected.

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  12. People usually respond to this statement by consoling you and telling you that its alright to fail sometimes. I couldn’t agree more with them.
    But then, we can not stop failures from demotivating us, can we? It is biologically “programmed” into us. We need to be more aware and accept this part of our lives. People fail. People may be created equal, and probably everyone must have the same potential. So, why then do some fail and others succeed?
    It has to do with the environment and luck. People grow around different environments and it has something to with how people absorb their surroundings. Change your surroundings, your room maybe? Change your perfume…change your hobbies – see if they work out. Try new things, you’ll get a hang of how life works for the common man. Maybe that’ll enlighten you to overcome your emotions and try again. If you fail, then try again. What good is a life if it always only happiness. Experience pain, overcome it and then help others in the same position. This will give you a happiness and a sense of satisfaction. It isn’t just about the interview, it is life. Man has found alternate routes around all his problems in history. You are a human – so then, why can’t you? Ask yourself this question every time life gets you down. It is like a game that has a tough boss at the end. But sooner or later, someone will break through and finish the game. That’s what life is about.
    Luck is a very much underrated idea. It has only a small percentage of effect in everything you do, but that small percentage can do drastic changes. And luck never favors people who actively seek it. It is like a food color. A small drop changes the entire color of the dish and makes it more appealing or disgusting.
    Good luck and try again in a different way!

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  13. Correct your mistakes, do yoga and meditation to overcome mental depression and fight back, one day you will get selected and that day is near.

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  14. Trust me. I have came through your situation last year. But now i realised everything happened for a reason. Take it as something else is waiting for you. be confident and go ahead.here are few approaches which will be helpful for your future interviews.
    1. Analyse the interview which you had and note down what went wrong. Sometimes if we recollect we may come up with solution for that.
    2. Do not think too much about your unsuccessful interview but try to learn from it. It will surely help you avoiding the same mistake.
    3. If you can note down all the questions that were asked in the interview (face to face round) and prepare better answers for them, that would be great. You might be knowing that concept but interviewer may except some additional things or examples to support that concept.
    4. Do not think about luck or compare with your peers. Everyone will get what they deserve.
    5.You have got a chance to improve more on your technical aspects than anyone else which will surely lead you to a very big company.
    6. Be thorough with whatever you have mentioned in your resume. Prepare well for the expected HR questions with illustrations to support your statement.
    Good luck!

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  15. There is actually a way to realize and analyze what happened, thus eas such situation.
    This not the perfect guide but usually helps in recovering from a bad feeling of failing and depression:
    There must be the situation that happenned and you remember it. (Now this is the most important thing. Sometimes people don’t even know why they have the depression. So first, you have to know… There is allways a reason. )
    In this situation (happennings) you had some expactations and emotions. If you know the expectations you had, get them straight. Recognize them. If you don’t think you had expectations, try to recognize the emotions. After recognizing your emotions at that situation, recognize the emotions of others. Than you should easier recognize your expectations… maybe also expectations of others.
    Now think of something beuatiful
    Now look at something around you… whatever, chair, table, coffee cup, whatever that is real.
    Now think again on the situation and try to get the emotions, expectations, goals and some details of the situation that made you in the bad emotional state.
    Now look at the thing that you looked before…
    Mentally, just by imagination, put those emotions, expectations, failed goals, fails into that real thing you looked at before.
    If it doesnt work and you don’t feel any better, (which I doubt if you did the steps above), than go on a, b, c, and d..
    The hard part if the stuff does not go out easy… 🙂
    a) What did you think in the upleasant situation
    b) Think of that…
    c) Imagine that thought has a color
    d) Imagine that thought has a taste
    e) Imagine that thought as you move it somewhere in your vicinity
    f) Put that thought mentally into an object around you
    g) Let that thought be there…
    h) Duplicate that thought again and keep it up
    i) Duplicate another thought and keep it beside the first one
    j) If Now you feel better, let it there and relax, enjoy life as it is now.
    k) If Now you don’t feel better, go to a calm place, take a walk, look around and try to get familiar with you real surrounding because you are too much into thinking and in your past.
    Hope it helped. Good Luck

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  16. Never feel bad and give up easily. Each failed interview is an experience and a step stone for the next level. Be smart for the next one. Everybody have some failed interview experience. Successful people do not feel awful, but they found the way to overcome it. Start preparing for the next interview.
    My best wishes!!!
    Cheers!

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  17. I am dyslexic when really tired i read back wards . Growing up in school was 6 feet tall own father called me stupid .teachers let me side through school because i played sports.could not read unit got in military i i was 18 . Served 6 years learned to read now i work in a control tower talking to airplanes. No one going to help you but you .and God you must believe in your self . I dont like being called stupid or any one being depressed i get depressed get frustrated must believe you can get any job . Build your self up. Your just as good as anyone else your just the same as the next person . Dont let any one tell u differnent . You dont understand ask a question . I ask all the time i learn new stuff everyday .you can do it i believe in you

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  18. There is an old saying (I know you are tired of listening to it but trust me this time)
    Failure is the stepping stone to success.
    We all do fail in life, its failure that teaches us more about ourselves.
    I got a pathetic score in one of the entrance exam back in 2015. I was a nobody.
    Hard time. However there was one man who really helped me come out of that phase . He will help you too.
    So let us talk about one of the best B2B company from China.
    The founder failed miserably. After completing his college he applied for many jobs but failed in all.
    The man was rejected from 30 jobs. Imagine.
    The man wanted to do something so he applied for Harvard, Failed again.
    Misery and more misery. Time was passing by , The man decided to take control of his emotions and started Alibaba.
    He went onto defeat one of the largest contender ebay.
    So cheer up!
    Someday, when you will become successful you will laugh off this small worries and rejections. Believe the timing of god.
    Also have a punch of craziness in yourself. Like him. 😉

    Whenever I face any interview and I don't get selected. I feel depressed. How can I avoid or overcome this?

    Cheers,
    SRA

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  19. Keep trying. What I’m about to say may sound hackneyed and corny, but you can fail 1,000 interviews, but all it takes is one good interview that will get you an offer.

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  20. Have you had any feedback at all on why you were unsuccessful each time?
    There are a myriad of things it could be, including:

    Your CV doesn’t convey your true skillset so you’re interviewing for jobs which don’t align with your skills (and this comes out in interview)
    You’ve overstated your experience on your CV and when questioned you’ve been unable to come up with the answers they were looking for
    You didn’t make the right impression
    You didn’t come across as someone who would fit in with the corporate culture
    Simple bad luck – second place each time

    If you’re confident your were a good match for each role and you didn’t answer the questions “wrongly” I’d recommend roping a friend in to help. Set up a video camera and role play an interview. Ensure the friend knows the sort of questions you’ve been asked and has your CV in front of them. Watch it back. How does it make you feel? Are you squirming as you watch it because you were chewing gum throughout it? Did you stumble on your answers? It may be a simple case of needing more interview practice or needing to calm your nerves.

    Victor Allen’s

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  21. Assess your performance.
    Be brutal.
    Make a list with pen & paper. What did you do right? What did you do wrong?
    Ask the place where you interviewed what you did wrong. Most likely they won’t help, but there is an off chance they will. Find out. Be humble.
    Find someone outside your family who is older and more experienced. Confide in him. Ask for advice. Once you get advice, take it.
    Next time you interview go through the process with someone else. Have them do research, help you plan how you’re going to proceed, and develop an approach that makes sense and fits your personality.
    Research the different ways to do this. Quora has an excellent backlog of answers that, if properly studied, will help you immensely. But you need to dig it out.
    All these various things will add up to improvement. Good luck.

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  22. Do a mock interview with a recruiter or a friend where you can polish up your skills and gain your confidence back before you go on the next interview.

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  23. try to find the reaons fo not selecting you work on weekness and strengths. polish your every possible skill. dnt be harsh on your self, just keep trying with positive attitude. good luck

    Dunkin’

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  24. Throughout a job search, you may have to endure what feels like countless rounds of interviews. While the majority of interviews might feel somewhat promising, even the most competent people are not immune to a rough interview. It may not occur very often, but when it does happen, you’ll most likely leave the room knowing that you did not get the job. Even though you may have a sense that this is the case, it can be unclear as to what caused the meeting to go wrong. However, as you analyze the conversation, you may be able to pinpoint your mistake, as well as correct it for your next interview. Ask yourself these five questions to be sure that one lousy interview experience does not repeat itself:
    Did you confidently address past mistakes?
    Questions like “What is your greatest weakness?” or “Tell me about a time you failed,” require thoughtful and polished responses. If a question like this came as a surprise to you, you may not have accurately portrayed your own self-awareness, honesty, and humility. Many candidates try to hide their flaws, and they answer with a cliché response, such as “I’m a perfectionist.” No one is perfect, so remember that employers want to hire someone who can identify their own flaws and work to improve them.
    Did you answer resume discrepancies positively?
    Many candidates have a work history that might raise some questions in an interview. This could mean that you have a history of job hopping, you’ve worked in several different industries, or you have an employment gap. While you should have answered these queries honestly, you also should have noted how these experiences have shaped your career and your skillset in a positive way. If you need to address an employment gap, perhaps you volunteered, traveled, or learned a new skill during your time out of the workforce. If you’ve held a variety of positions, be sure that you stressed your diverse background and the skills you’ve learned as a result.
    Did you know enough about the company and the role?
    Some key components to performing well in an interview are understanding the company, the competitive landscape, and how your background makes you the right choice for the job. Evaluate whether you took opportunities to point out examples of your experience and how it applies to the position. Additionally, consider if anything during the interview about the position or the state of the company revealed took you by surprise. If you were thrown off by new information, or if you don’t think you sold your background well enough, you may need to prepare a little more for your next interview. To start, be sure to check out the company’s website, social media, and news coverage. Also, don’t forget to thoroughly review the job description and think of specific examples of how your experience makes you a great fit for the role.
    Did you ask thoughtful questions?
    Remember that an interview is a two-way street; you should be evaluating whether this employer is right for you by asking questions. However, there are many ways this can go wrong. While some may ask inappropriate questions regarding things like social media policies, others may not ask any questions at all. Rather than implying that you only care about checking Facebook at work or that you don’t have any thoughts at all, this is the time to show the interviewer your deep understanding of the industry and how you might function in the role. If you fell short in this portion of the interview, you will most likely not be offered the position. Be sure to reflect on the questions you asked, and evaluate whether you could have asked more insightful questions .
    Was it just the wrong fit?
    While this analysis can help you address your flaws and improve your interview performance, you might not always be able to pinpoint where it went wrong. Remember that cultural fit must be evaluated as well, and it’s difficult to be compatible with everyone. Even when two competent and friendly professionals meet, you just might not click with each other. Keep in mind that it isn’t necessarily the fault of your experience or your performance in the interview; perhaps it just wasn’t the right position or team for you.

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  26. You need to get over this right away. Like a good relationship you need to go into the next relationship without any baggage…
    Review…
    Did you say anything negative about yourself? Self deprecation isn’t attractive.
    Did you say anything negative about your current or previous employer or colleagues? Gossip is unattractive.
    Sell yourself but be honest… you need not mention and detail all your faults. Interviews are not a warts’n’all tell all. They do want to know what you are good at.
    Your private life is YOUR PRIVATE LIFE. They can ask… you only need to tell them the basics.
    I have been criticized for this interview approach on Quora.. but I stand by the fact that often we get trapped into gossip and self-deprecation. Interviews are about the strengths and skills and positive attitude you bring, the stresses that you get put through during the interview are a measure of how well you adapt to changing conditions.
    Also, I hate trap and “standard” questions… they show little effort and thought being placed on the process.

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  27. Try not to take job interview rejection too personal. There are a number of reasons why you may not have got the job. First of all most available jobs go to friends and family of people who work within an organization. Yes, its true nepotism is rampant in the job search field. A recent study done by the Dubrets Foundation found seven in every 10 young people aged 16-25 use family connections to get their first job. On the positive side, family members can’t fill all the jobs that come available through retirements, firings, quittings, sickness and accidents. If you are an outsider, you have to sell yourself that much more effectively. There are books on answering job search questions effectively, One of the best books in job search is “What Color is Your Parachute’ by Richard Bolles (available at most libraries for free). Video tape yourself answering questions with a friend or relative. Interviewing is a skill that can be l…

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  28. Stop being so invested in interviews.
    Even in the boom times it usually took me 5 interviews to get a job.
    Keep applying and going to interviews – even the jobs you aren’t sure you really want.
    It’ll make you seem a lot more friendly and confident when you can treat an interview as a mutual conversation as to whether you want to work together.

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  29. It is upsetting failing at something you really really want. So the first question I have for you is:
    Did you really (really!) want these things or did you expect to succeed without really trying, without giving it your absolutely best?
    If you didn’t give it your best then you have to accept that you’re lazy and shouldn’t expect pity from anybody. You’re then just upset because somebody else didn’t do it for you and you need to get serious about your life and your goals.
    If you did do your best then you should ask yourself what went wrong? Clearly you missed something. Find out what it was and do your best to understand it. Try again.
    It’s worthwhile remembering that FAIL is an acronym for First Attempt In Leaning. Your life isn’t over because you missed this or that.
    We all have multiple priorities in life and when something doesn’t work out it’s often because we didn’t allocate enough time to swing it. Get your priorities right. If you have an important exam coming up and you know that you need to study hard then that party one of your friends is throwing is perhaps not that important even if Mr/Ms “Right” may attend too. Define your priorities and stick to them (as long as they continue to make sense).
    Of course it does happen that your best just isn’t good enough. It’s OK being sad about that for a while, but keep moving. If there’s another way, try it, if there isn’t, well cut your losses and move on.
    In the question you mention “job interview” and “rejection”. In my opinion these are not very important aspects of life. Obviously being able to pay the bill…

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  30. Check that your interview technique is OK , and you are applying for appropriate jobs , then wipe them from your memory Most jobs will have a long list of 5 – 10 , and you do very well to get on the long list. Just on probability terms you are going to fail 9 out of 10 interviews. Reflect on how the interview went , and see if you can refine your interview technique ( travel timings, dress sense, company research, examples used for competency interviews, making connections with interviewer etc) Every interview will hone your technique.
    Then , forget about them , and carry on applying – the more you apply for the luckier you will be 🙂

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  31. In Get that job at Google , Steve Yegge suggests accepting that the tech interview process might not go in your favor, and trying again whenever you are given the opportunity. However, your personal finances might require that you earn money sooner than the next time you get to interview. My suggestion is to live as frugal a life as possible (especially if this would buy you more time to prepare for interviews) and/or be prepared to seek employment at companies that might not be your preference (if you would otherwise be broke and have no other means of support).

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  32. No feeling whether pleasurable or discomforting stays or sticks. Mind will seek diversions (solacing ideas, entertainments, religious-spiritual ideas and so on) to gloss over, to escape the feeling.
    It is quite natural to feel uneasy when something unpalatable happens. Not reacting to this uneasiness is the key. Your energy remains concentrated. Any action is now relaxed, conscious. Imagination opens up.
    At any point- whether you get what you want or do not get it – new imaginations, new desires, new ideas are continuously flooding your mind. Once you see that the process does not have a satisfactory end-you are on the Original ground.

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  33. You can change the way you feel about failure. No one can succeed at all times and failure is one of the best opportunities to learn. Embrace failure as a teacher and you may find your anxiety diminishes.

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  34. It is natural to feel bad after failure. Most answers here have focused on consoling. I think it is unfair.
    There is a need to rationally analyse what went wrong. For each position, the interviewers decide a set of skills that they are looking for. One has to match that list without getting nervous or anxious. actually it is possible to guide your interview to quite an extent
    Here are some tips:
    Identify what are the interests of the organisation vis a vis the appointment you are seeking. Prepare a set of the qualities the Interviewers may be looking for. Prepare your response for each.
    Remember, the requirement is mutual and yours alone. So identifying and working on common meeting grounds will work well. If you are filling up a form or presenting a resume / CV before the event, take care to align it with the organisation’s interests. Study and analyse each point in your form / CV and work out what questions these may throw up. If done intelligently, some points are bound to attract attention and can be leveraged to guide your interview in the initial as well as later stages.
    Some nervousness is bound to be there, but needs to be kept to the minimum. Few rounds of meditation here, during the preceding period, can be very useful. If you are not into it, seek a Pranic Healer and take a few sessions to set aside the fear of interview etc. This can prepare you well to handle the situation with a calm mind.
    Be confident of what you talk. take an analogy from ads where even if the product is poor, guys project it as the ultimate. in front of the panel you are selling yourself, do a good job of it rather than being dormant .
    Pay special attention to your speech. Be clearly audible, open your mouth while speaking to avoid mumbling, being a little louder than normal will help. rehearse sentences during preparation, pick up good diction and phrases even if you are not very good at speaking or the language. Remember, some guys may be a little hard of hearing in the panel being of age.
    With each interview, analyse what was asked, what did you reply and what you should have replied. Gradually you would have refined your responses. There are some set-piece questions prepare well for them.
    Dress up well and in tune with Organisational ethos and discipline. Smart turnout is a morale booster and conveys a positive message. Formals are a safe bet.
    Approaching an interview with the right attitude is important and will reduce anxiety. Something like, “I have done my best for preparation, now that is behind me, I need to make the best of my Interview now”. If things get difficult during interaction, take it easy and hold your poise, they may be just wanting to put you a little off-balance to see your reaction – may well be an indication that the event is going on well.
    There is no harm is saying you do not know. Avoid guesses and inaccurate answers. Of course you can’t afford to draw too many blanks, but blanks are better than wrong or wishful replies.
    Nothing can replace your competence for the job being sought. Choose a field which you like and which you are efficient in rather than trying to put a round peg in a square hole. Happy Interview.

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  35. This happens to make you strong. To succeed you have to fail so you appreciate that success. How will you value success if you have not experienced the feeling of failing.. Embrace it but build your capacity. Never ever loose hope and learn from the best. Read the life stories of the successful entrepreneurs you know and you will be inspired. Be focused and everything will go on well. Your life has not ended yet, if there is life, there is hope. Rejection is bound to happen, failure is bound to happen because we are humans, just bare that in mind my dear. :). All the best

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  36. Applying for jobs and doing your best for an interview, and then waiting to hear back is taxing as it is. On top of that, if you have to face rejection, it can be disheartening and demotivating. The good news is, it doesn’t have to feel this way. You can work through the demotivation by rejecting to view job interview rejection as a failure. Or, as John C. Maxwell has quoted, “Successful people reject rejection.”
    You might be tempted to think you don’t have what it takes if your job interview doesn’t materialize as you want it to. But you should try and remember that if something doesn’t work out, it might work in your favor.
    It can be tough but if you focus on your strengths and use this time to either upgrade your skills or think about jobs that will actually make you happy, you might be able to conjure something good out of this experience. Stay strong!

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  37. I think I have faced similar situation in the past. Despite of my excellent resume, I was not able to convert any of my interviews. Firstly, I suggest you to be in good company. Surround yourself around people who cares for you. who are positive and encouraging. Read inspiring books. Try your best but dont get overstressed with apprehensions. It’s not end of life for you. It’s just one interview! always be positive.

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  38. If you feel upset you were attached to it.
    With exams, if you failed, you got your answers wrong. Often you can get a copy of the exam and a copy of ideal answers. Then you can see where you went wrong. I have sat 120 exams, so my advice is when you prepare for an exam read your notes, the text book, your tutorial answers, your assignments and 5 -10 past exams and ideal answers. Then you should know what to expect. Also the more marks you get during term the less you will need from final exams, so do as well as you can before exams.
    In job interviews, it really depends on the other candidates. In one interview I applied for my referee was offered the job. You have no idea who you are up against, so have a look who got the role afterwards, if you can, and see what they had above and beyond you.
    In rejection, just try to keep things in perspective. If a person say no to a date, there is a very good chance they are not your soul mate, so you are not missing out.

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  39. First of all, you are not the only person in the world who is not getting selected in few interviews. Its a general thing and need not to be given so much importance. Second, if you really think that you have that potential and knowledge but still not getting selected. Just sit & relax for a certain period and think about the things which are not going well during interviews. Try to improve on those competencies. Try to have fair look on your abilities and areas of expertise and try in fields matching your interest and expertise. Avoid unnecessary calls of interviews and focus in one area which suits you the most.
    And remember that even great Einstein failed thousand times before he got one success. ” So don’t give up . Start working to make yourself even better ! Go and let the world know that you are their and this world can not ignore you any longer. Be positive all the time and avoid all negative thoughts. There are immense of opportunity, you just have open your mind and see them. All the best,. !!!!!

    Eight O’Clock

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  40. First accept that being depressed doesn’t help you out in your interview process and that it is pulling you down further.
    Ask yourself this question: Have you prepared well enough?
    If the answer is no, then find where you are missing out. If the answer is yes, then the problem is you are not able to present the best out of yourself during the interview process. Meditate. Yes. it improves your concentration and helps you remain calm.
    I wish you all the very best!! I am sure you’ll definitely get your dream job in a while.
    Take one day at a time but live your life to the fullest . Life is short so do whatever it takes you to be happy . period 🙂

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  41. Very simple by not giving up.
    Jack Ma – CEO of biggest e-commerce portal failed many times before becoming who he is now.
    Though, you can take few pointers like:
    Start contacting all the HR’s of all places where you went for the interview and try to gather why you were rejected.
    Take that data and try to see similarities or try to find which is the higher issue.
    For ex: If they say you lacked confidence, or your body posture gave them a sign that you were not interested for the job.
    Though, we now know that could due to your “mindset” due to repeated no’s.
    So take that point and change your mindset in the next interview.
    3. Write key points about your resume on a piece of paper, which you must cover under any scenario while giving interview.
    4. I also suggest, never mug up your resume and vomit when they say “tell us something about yourself or your experience”
    Take them through your resume first in pointers and then focus on what all you did while working with those companies.
    5. Watch few videos on Youtube Or Udemy about basic stuff like sitting posture, introduction, closing, going through CV. With so many things available, you can gather material from every where and compile into your own story and just narrate that while giving an interview.
    6. It is also obvious to get nervous, if you do get nervous. Lead the conversation and slow down the pace of the interview. This way your mouth won’t dry up, you can talk more calmly, you won’t stammer or race through your resume.
    There are many – key thing is don’t give up and walk in with confidence & do your best, rest leave it for destiny.
    Never say you ain’t worth it.

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  42. “Sometimes when I reflect back on all the beer I drink I feel ashamed. Then I look into the glass and think about the workers in the brewery and all of their hopes and dreams. If I didn’t drink this beer, they might be out of work and their dreams would be shattered. Then I say to myself, It is better that I drink this beer and let their dreams come true than to be selfish and worry about my liver .”
    ~ Jack Handey
    “Drinking beer doesn’t make you fat; it makes you lean… against bars, tables, chairs, and poles.”
    ~ Anonymous
    “Whenever someone asks me if I want water with my scotch, I say, I’m thirsty, not dirty .”
    ~ Joe E. Lewis
    “Responsible drinking? Now that’s an oxymoron.”
    ~ Aaron Howard
    “Alcohol may be man’s worst enemy, but the bible says love your enemy.”
    ~ Frank Sinatra

    Peet’s

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  43. Not everybody gets every interview, theres no need to feel awful, the right job will come along soon…pick yourself up and say next time, until it happens, and it will! Good luck!

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  44. Look, Whenever we get a negative experience we hold on it and Increase that to unexpandable limit. Never mind if you don’t get Selected. Move on and Go for another one. You will definitely get Selected.

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